The Worldly Weed: Dysfunctionality

Like a butterfly flitting about the blossoms…

Thank you for my summer space.  A special thanks to those readers who noticed my visits to their sites mimic a Monarch butterfly’s erratic flight pattern.

My domicile and heart-pollinating duties have not gone astray.  They remain in the climatic zone of Soul Dipper.

A half-finished draft sits in my dashboard that will explain some reasons for my Danaus plexippus performance. But for now?  I have an important message to share which, in my unsolicited opinion, is a message of major insight showing how many aspects of our world have managed to become, to varying degrees, dysfunctional.

The story is so simple and innocent, yet its message swells my heart with the tenderest Love.

Readers, willing to be honest and open, I hope you find a desire to de-clutter, expose and polish your life into more wholesome living, leading and loving.

Even the souls of big, important, forever-busy, and multitasking people are in this article.  The in-demand, endlessly-needed and ever-on-a-device folk will be able to see themselves in this story.  So can the people who live simply. The germ cares not about its carrier:

Instant Weight Loss

by Jason Leister      (From Call to Awaken)

I’ve spent a lot of my life living out other people’s dreams. I didn’t do it on purpose. Instead, it’s a habit I developed at an early age that got embedded very, very deeply.

Growing up, I was from the outside looking in, pretty much a perfect child.

I got straight A’s, I never got into trouble, I followed the rules and I could always be counted on to “do the right thing.”

Before you fire off a message criticizing the size of my ego, understand that I don’t hold this “perfect child” distinction in very high regard. It’s not a badge of honor, it’s a major character flaw.

Living as a “perfect child” included behaviors like:

• Being very tolerant of others’ opinions, even when they directly opposed my own.
• Submitting to the will of others and granting others the “right of way” without question.
• Being diplomatic and careful in my choice of words so as not to offend anyone or make anyone feel intimidated.
• Accepting fault as a way to avoid conflict.
• Going to extreme lengths to please others.

The list could go on, but I’ll stop it there because I’ve made my point.

I learned very early on that being “perfect” produced accolades. It also was an effective way to avoid conflict and to gain approval.

What I didn’t realize at the time, however, was that being “perfect” built an almost impenetrable prison wall preventing me from ever being truly free.

And So the Weight Gain Began

So what happens to someone who consistently suppresses his own will in favor of submitting to someone else’s will?

That someone gains weight.

You don’t gain physical pounds, instead you gain the weight of choices, actions and commitments that are not your own.

Over time, this weight grows until the majority of your focus and effort each day is invested in pursuing the desires of others. You think they are your desires, but you are wrong. You just can’t see that you are wrong because it has become your habit to ignore reality.

You think you are living your life, but in reality, you are too scared to live your life. Instead, you live what others would have for your life.

This is how I lived for a very long time.

I chose what others wanted for my life instead of developing the skill to discern and choose what I wanted for my life.

As you might imagine, this can cause a lot of damage in the life of a human being. And it is perhaps the most insidious form of self-betrayal I know.

The worst symptom of the damage, by far, was that I developed the habit of…

Saying “Yes,” When I Wanted to Say “No”

We’ve all had times in our life when we’ve done something like this. A person asks us to do something and we agree to it when we really don’t want to.

Nobody wants to be a jerk, after all. But last time I checked, being a jerk is a pretty subjective situation.

The fact of the matter is I didn’t have the guts at the time to answer questions like this honestly. Instead, I was scared to death of the consequences of “rejecting” someone by asserting my will and saying, “No.”

And so I said “Yes” when I should have said “No.” And I did it over and over and over again.

And the weight piled on because of it.

Living like this blurs your focus of what you should be doing with your life and it fills your days with stuff you shouldn’t be doing.

As Your Life Develops, Available Opportunity Shrinks

Success minded individuals often say things like, “Opportunity is everywhere.” I made the mistake of believing that once, but these days I know better.

There might be limitless opportunities for someone to pursue, but there aren’t limitless opportunities that are right for me to pursue.

There might be thousands of goals that are worthy of achievement for someone on this planet, but there aren’t many that are worth investing a portion of my own short life to achieve.

As I grow and gain experience and wisdom, I realize that the list of opportunities deserving of my time is actually shrinking.

And that realization, quite frankly, is liberating. Because it replaces a feeling of overwhelm with a feeling of peace and calm.

It gives me the power to exercise discernment and control over the direction of my life. And to be extremely selective about how I invest each moment I’m alive.

Today Is the Day to Drop the Pounds

If you’re carrying around extra weight like I’ve described, today is the day to drop it. ALL OF IT. It requires only a decision to be your real self and the courage to stand in that authenticity.

We are here for a reason and it’s high time that we all start living that out.

Your choices require no one’s approval and there’s no need to provide an explanation. There is only a requirement to act.

My hunch is that there are things you are holding onto in your life and business that simply are no longer worthy of your time. Maybe they never even were.

It’s just not a good use of your life to hang on. Think big, act big. Release what is not yours to carry. Don’t be afraid to move on.

Give yourself permission to do this. Give yourself permission to “lighten up.”

Because it is only when you lighten up that you will fly.

Blessings,

~Jason Leister