Loneliness is not overcome simply by being with other people. Or being connected to other people.
Putting ourselves in the mileau of the masses does not cure the ache of feeling unloved. Grabbing one of the latest communication devices or heading to a place where you can catch people’s attention like velcro in a lint storm are just distractions. They give temporary relief from the gnawing sense of being unloved, or unlovable, but it’s just a temporary fix. Loneliness will predictably resume its clutches without the antidote of intimacy.
I remember being terribly lonely in marriage. It was a double whammy. Not only did I long for that soul intimacy with a male, I felt it would be unfaithful if I did communicate with another man using that level or brand of intimacy. I’m not talking about sex. I knew that sex would not bring intimacy.
But I knew intimacy certainly brought good sex. Intimacy in an incredible aphrodisiac.
Thankfully I didn’t have to indulge in any two-timing activity. I kept a generous number of incredible women friends with whom I could fall into intimate conversation immediately upon impact.
These soulful women friends inadvertently taught me that loneliness simply needs a healthy dose of intimacy. That’s the antidote. Intimacy is to loneliness what light is to a dark room. Attempting to fill the intimacy gap by simply connecting to others is like moving to a different room without a match. It’s just another dark room.
When we find that soul, male or female, who knows about sharing intimacy, the match is struck. The dark is transformed instantly.
And so, my Beloved Intimates, now for your wise input.
There may be some confusion about how to be intimate. How do you know when you are on the receiving end of intimacy? Or when you are in a state of intimacy?
That is a unique question, My Guides. (Pause.) It’s when we are communing at a level where we are able to demonstrate a deep, unspoken understanding of each other. I will probably have more to say, but can we start with that?
That’s an impressive beginning. Thank you. So do you find you can be intimate with a stranger?
By all means. And I love those times when a conversation goes so deep so quickly that both of us forget to be inhibited.
What do you mean by “deep”?
May I give an example?
We would be delighted if you would. Remember the value of stories.
At our Market, a young woman was selling her pottery. She had a number of pieces marked down on a separate table. A small, very elderly, man stood beside me as we both carefully perused the sale table. The pieces were exquisite and unique, far more interesting than the regular pieces. Both silent, we mutually marveled over the sale items and glanced comparatively at the regular stock. I could tell it did not make sense to either of us.
Finally I had to ask the potter, “Why are these pieces on sale?”
“They’re seconds. I probably shouldn’t have brought them,” she said, demonstrably embarrassed. She explained that they defied either the oven or her hand, resulting in a state of ‘different-dom’. They didn’t belong to any set, she concluded.
The wizened old gentleman and I suddenly looked at each other in a conspiracy of soul. His worn-blue eyes sparkled with impish delight, “This woman is God”, he said with a New York accent. “She’s made gloriously flawed pieces of beauty – just like you and me!”
I hugged his cane-free left arm and said, “Nice to meet you, Mr. Second.”
Could you have had that same exchange with a friend?
Yes. I have many of those types of exchanges with friends.
So how did this stranger know that he could share that depth of soul with you?
Maybe he read my energy. Maybe he didn’t. Maybe he took a chance. Maybe he did what I do with the women I mentor…he “put it out there” to see if the concept would be recognized for what it was. At the very worst, if I had not been thoroughly and joyfully engaged with what he was saying, he simply would have been a memorably nice, little, old man.
And instead, he hit on a soul that embraced his.
Obviously he embraced mine, too. That happened about twenty years ago and its effects are as fresh as the seconds on that table!
And on the subject of young people and intimacy, you have expressed concern about them possibly missing out on this type of intimacy. You see them with plugged in, turned on, racing by, drinking in, smoking up and party hard lifestyles. We recognize that your concern is really about them missing out on the love that lives in intimacy. You want them to experience it.
It crosses my mind frequently. There was a professor, from the States, interviewed on our Canadian Broadcasting Corporation who addressed many of the same concerns. Will the constant bombardment of input on their senses cut off their ability to develop their intuitive skills? Will they be able to learn about energy? Will they know that those times of piercing loneliness require nothing more than their courage to reach out and into the soul of another?
You know we are the Ra Soul Group. You know that we have existed over all of what you consider ‘time’. You are aware that since the beginning of this planet’s existence, we have been loving humans through stages and conditions of existence. We have been instrumental in feeding Love, directly from the Source, to all circumstances where it is accepted. We have been with you in ways that certainly fall within your definition of intimacy and far beyond.
We have been called upon by the Source to provide all that has been needed for the great Masters to give to this world, according to what could be accepted by the masses at that time. This, as you know, includes Jesus the Christ. The depth and stages of the loneliness those Masters could have experienced was overridden by the support from the All Knowing and All Loving Source. Besides the Masters, we joyfully come to the assistance of all have ask for help.
Having fulfilled this Work for The Divine Intimate, why would we not also take care of your concern? Is this not a prayer? Each time you have felt concern over the possibility of young people suffering due to a lack of intimacy or love, we have responded.
Yesterday, you gave me Dale, didn’t you?
Yes. She reminded you of the Abraham teachings. The youth are fulfilling their destinies. They will emerge through their youthful machinations and gyrations. You were more evolved than your parents. What would cause these young people to be less evolved than you? Also, thank you for noticing the billionaires who are opening their hearts and their wealth to further facilitate people being able to live without poverty neutralizing their love.
Thank you to the Infinite Creator for that shift of consciousness. What about how youth can hurt parents? Can that be lessened? Parenting must be the most hurtful responsibility in existence.
We are with each generation as the evolutionary changes transpire and evolve beyond the former. We assist all who ask for help.
Thank you. I will trust that all is under God’s Loving Care.
Take every opportunity to give love and intimacy to a parent – any parent – that you find in your path. It is a confusing time. The confusion for both youth and parents is heightened during this transformative period. Approaches and solutions will be made obvious as this transitional shift unfolds.
Thank you, My Incredible Guides. You have assured me that we all will seek the intimacy we need at the level we comprehend.
We will continue to be with you. Without end.