When the angels whisper, we call it “coincidence”.
I heard Gabriel’s horn!
An English woman living in Japan, Jaq of Jinkspots, and I connected on Face Book. When I saw her picture, I gasped. She resembled the maternal side of my family – the ones who had come from England. I asked about her heritage and explained the incredible resemblance.
Consequently, old feelings loomed. Once again I wanted to connect with maternal cousins – especially Uncle Tom’s children. I loved every minute spent with their father. Uncle Tom, the youngest of the family, used to come for visits with Mom – the eldest. Both Tom and Mother were educators which contributed to the visits being punctuated with vitality, laughter and fascinating intellect. I’d ask about his children, but since they were all adults busy with their own lives AND since FB didn’t yet exist, he apparently didn’t find opportunity to mention my interest in their lives.
Three weeks ago, I found one cousin – A. – on Face Book. I wrote her a message, but received no response. I felt slightly rejected and decided to see if I could find her sister – M. I did! I looked at available photos of M., but decided to put it on hold.
Meanwhile, back on FB, I noticed an obscure “flag” off to one side. I clicked on it. Claudia, a non-FB-friend, had written a message in May – three months earlier. It began:
“Hi there. I can’t write this to you on the page, but hope you’ll get this. What you wrote on Karen’s page was lovely … I thought I was doing well with the news of her death, but I find with each really great story, I’m reduced to tears. She was my doctor for many years…”
Karen, a 50-something doctor on our island, had died suddenly and Claudia needed to share her grief from England where she currently lives.
To see if I would recognize Claudia, I went to her wall to find a possible photo. While there, I noticed she’d received a comment from my cousin M.! At first I didn’t believe it – except there was the identical profile photo I’d just seen. It was more than a nudge to get on with the connection.
Meanwhile, I responded to Claudia about Dr. Karen’s Celebration of Life. As an afterthought, I added:
“On a totally different note, I went to your FB to “place” you. As I went through available profile photos (and I found one that helped the penny drop. I DO recognize you!), I saw a comment from M…. She is my cousin from a side of my family with whom I’ve just recently tried to connect. … Did you connect with her through the art world?”
On August 27th, Claudia replied:
“WHAT A SMALL WORLD!!!!! I have yet to meet M., but know her through a friend – L. It just seemed the right thing to do (friending each other) as we share views and share concerns for our mutual friend. Very amazing that you and I could easily have met through that connection too.”
I was giving myself time to muster courage to contact M. On August 30th, I was gob-smacked. I received a FB message from M. :
“Hi A. – Claudia forwarded (me) part of your comment to her. I was so surprised. I knew Dorothy had had daughters, but I guess I assumed that you guys really didn’t know who we were. My mom said that you or your sister were at Dad’s memorial, but I wasn’t all there, as you can imagine.
It’s nice to reconnect.”
M. and I have now exchanged our sibling information giving clues about what has kept us busy all these years. Amazing to think we are just beginning to discover one another.
A. sent a friend request, but we have not connected yet.
A. and M. are very talented, creative and diverse sisters who carry the looks of my mother’s family to such a degree, it seems I have part of my mother with me again.
I can hardly wait to discover who has all the delectable and unique family traits that will likely throw us into hysterics!
It’s close to 90 years since Grandma and Grandpa Mallinson have been together in one place with all of their offspring – such as they are in this post. Grandma died in 1924; Grandpa in the 1960s. All of their “kids” in the above photo have also passed on – each having at least lived into their 80s.
Imagine having to go through Japan, a Doctor’s death and England to bring the Arthur Mallinson family under one roof and discover the next generation only 30 miles away – just across a briny channel.
Can’t wait to see if these cousins know anything about our other rellies in the Thousand Islands in Ontario.